Devotional Theme:
Is the Glass Half-full, Half-empty, or Sufficient?
Paul's letter to Titus while Titus served the Church in
Crete presents to Titus the qualities of leadership -- qualities and not gifts.
Although this message is similar to Paul's message to Timothy it is still different enough to warrant discussion and
contemplation here. Of particular
interest to this devotional is Titus 3:3 shown to the left in bold type (the
whole passage of verses 1-7 show the context) in which Paul indicates that he
and Titus were once with envy and the implication of the verse is that envy,
along with other undesirable qualities should not be encouraged in the church at
Crete. The focus of this devotional is the introspective look into what drives
us to do what we do.
The old-adage of seeing a glass as either half-full or
half-empty is directed at determining if one sees life as an optimist or as a
pessimist but the example ignores a third option -- that of sufficiency. When is
striving for more OK and when is it not OK? To examine this it is necessary to
first
examine your motives as to why you want more. Is it to exceed what your neighbor
has? To be the 'envy' of others? Did this begin by 'envying'
others first? St. Basil's message (on the left of this page) points out that those who strive from a sense
of envy will never be free of trouble -- so why strive? Striving as a means of
being a steward of resources given to us, whether these resources are people or
material, leads to a sense of satisfaction since the steward does not seek a
reward or personal gain but rather seeks to benefit the master or owner. Agency
theory developed as a result of leaders and managers acting in their own behalf
rather than acting as stewards, thus the presence for forced accountability
measures imposed on leaders from outside constituents.
But what of the entrepreneur who is his/her own agent and
steward in one person? The entrepreneur has to decide if he/she wants growth because
growth is needed or if growth is sought as means of increasing the size of
his/her personal holdings in order to gain status and exceed the wealth of his/her
neighbor. The entrepreneur is harder to evaluate since entrepreneurs, many
times, do not have outside constituents to report to, thus accountability
measures may not be obvious. The entrepreneur needs to check his/her motives to
determine the reason for the behaviors.
The danger of envy is that it causes leaders -- whether an
entrepreneur or not -- to focus on self rather than others -- customers,
employees, family, and most importantly God. Saul envied David and focused on
himself to his own demise. David envied Uriah and coveted Uriah's wife Bathsheba
that ended in Uriah's death, David's public disclosure through Nathan, and
eventually the fall of David, his children, and all of David's kingdom. Envy
rarely is fulfilled since there is usually someone somewhere who has more than
you do and once you exceed another you find still more people who have
more.
The next time you see a glass partially filled consider if
you see it as half-full, half-empty, or sufficient.
Example of the devotional
John was in his 40's and was moving along the ladder of
success. He had married a beautiful woman and had two children who both were
doing well in school. John had a large house in a prestigious neighborhood. He
and his wife both drove luxury cars and the family enjoyed fabulous vacations
each year. But John was troubled. He was deeply in debt and was beginning to
have trouble paying his bills on time. John was obviously living far beyond his
means as he sought to have the things and prestige that others had. John always
saw the glass as insufficient and wanted more. He was driven at work to perform
better than anyone else and his peers avoided working on projects with him since
he always seemed to look out for himself and blamed everyone else for any
problems that occurred with the high profile projects.
John's wife was concerned about John and noticed that every
time that John bought something new or got a promotion or another bonus at work
that he was only happy for a short period of time. She noticed that he was
becoming more withdrawn from the family and more demanding of her and the two
children. It seemed that nothing that she or the children did was good enough
and he was constantly pushing the three of them to engage in public performances
or contests.
John's debt caught up with him and he had to file for
bankruptcy that resulted in public disclosure of John's financial condition. He
was embarrassed and quit his job as result. John's behavior did not change
though. Although the family lost their prestigious house and were now living in
an apartment, John became angry and sullen every time he saw a neighbor with a
new car or other item. John's wife eventually reached the end of her tolerance
and moved out taking the children with her and offered to return only upon John
seeking and actively involving himself in therapy for his obsessive compulsive
behavior.
Application of the devotional
Envy is not ambition but rather a form of greed that drives
people to perform in ways that do not bless God or demonstrate that they are
loving their neighbor as themselves. Ambition that moves the steward to see what
he/she can do to better serve his/her master and bless others in the process is
the better choice.
Practical exercise related to the devotional
Be attuned to your attitude when you see that others have
more than you do whether it is in material things, personal skills, or job
achievements. If you notice that you feel intense emotional reactions to the
announcements of others' success or when you see your neighbor drive home in a
new car -- make note of the emotion and spend time in honest self-reflection
asking God to help show you the basis of your heart. If you don't, there may
well be a Nathan in your future..
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